Tips on Finding a Divorce Mediator

Divorce mediators are professionals that help families resolve conflict and can help you navigate the divorce or custody process peacefully. Using a mediator is a great alternative to litigation, and can help you resolve your legal issues without going to court. There are a few ways to find a mediator to help you with your separation, divorce or custody issues.

When searching for a mediator, start by asking your family and friends for a referral. A good recommendation from someone you trust is a great way to find a mediator.  Ask how the process worked for them and about the mediator’s style and fees.

An attorney or other professional may be able to guide you in the right direction. For example, an attorney, accountant, financial planner or real estate agent may recommend a mediator that he or she has worked with in the past and trusts to help their clients to move forward with the process.

Using mediator referral websites such as the Academy of Professional Family Mediators,,, or the Pennsylvania Council of Mediators are also wonderful resources to help you find a professional mediator in your area.

Mediation should be easy and affordable, look for professionals that offer flat fees or unbundled fees and always ask for an estimate up front, so that there are no expensive surprises for you and your family.  Ask for a consultation so that you both have an opportunity to meet your mediator and get information about his or her mediation process and how long it typically takes to mediate situations similar to yours.

Finding an experienced, professional mediator can help you and your family move forward in a peaceful, affordable, amicable manner and with respect. If you would like more information about whether a healthy divorce or custody mediation would be right for you, please contact me at:

Tips on Finding a Divorce Mediator

Divorce Budget Worksheet

Why use a budget worksheet?

Plan your future

Most divorcing couples are surprised to hear that their expenses may significantly increase after separation (27%-50%). To put this in perspective, consider that after separation, each of your incomes may remain the same, however, instead of one shared electric bill you each will have your own separate bill, your car insurance premiums and health insurance premiums may increase, or perhaps you may lose the multi-phone discounts on your cell phone bill.  Having a clear plan of action that includes making sure you can afford to live separately from your spouse is essential.

Prepare a budget

One of the most useful ways to help plan for your future is to prepare a Budget Worksheet.  Utilizing a budget worksheet or spreadsheet can help you estimate and prepare for your expenses after separation. Most folks think budgeting is cumbersome or bothersome, but taking the time to calculate how much it will cost to move out on your own or to pay the mortgage and auto loan yourself can be one of the most important steps you take during this process. Budgeting is a necessary tool that can help you make better financial decisions for you and your family moving forward.

Make your own decisions

Your divorce mediator may ask you to prepare and share your budget worksheets and financial information with your spouse.  Sharing this information and becoming aware of the financial picture of each other, can help you make better financial decisions for you and your family. After preparing your worksheets, decide if you can afford to keep the cars and the family home, or if child support is to be calculated, how much should it be? I have found that most clients find this information empowering, and it helps them take control of their own lives moving forward.

empower yourself

Gathering the information you need to organize your life and your finances can empower you to make the best decisions for your future. To get started, click this link for a copy of a divorce budget worksheet with formulas: Budget Worksheet   If you or your partner would like more information on mediating your divorce, separation, child custody or support issues in an amicable, efficient and affordable manner, please contact Dawn Clement at to schedule a consultation.

Dawn Clement

Mediator & Attorney


Divorce Budget Worksheet