My first blog post highlighted why I left litigation to become a mediator. Today, I want to share with you why I think couples should try to mediate their divorce before rushing to court.
If you were to google “How much does divorce cost?” You would probably see a range of prices from $15,000 to $50,000 or more. Divorce is expensive, but litigating a divorce will cost you big time. Lengthy court battles and attorney’s fees will affect your cash flow, which can be a burden on already financially strapped families. Mediation can cost less than $5,000, quite a big savings for you and your family if you choose to work it out with a mediator.
Going to court takes time, scheduling court dates, attorney schedules and fighting can extend a divorce for years. A mediated divorce can be resolved in just a few sessions with a mediator, quickly and efficiently.
Custody trials can be very hard on families, children are often used as pawns between the two fighting spouses. Courts often decide custody schedules that they feel are best for your family, leaving both parents to try to conform to a plan that just doesn’t work. Parents know what is best for your children, not a third party that has no clue what your family needs to function efficiently. Why leave such an important issue for a judge to decide? You and your spouse know your finances, work and school schedules the better than an outsider.
Mediation sessions are conducted in my private office, documents and conversations are confidential. On the other hand, if you choose to fight it out in court, your case becomes public, court employees, and other folks will hear your private family issues. No one wants to air their dirty laundry in court, where it becomes fodder for gossip and rumors. Protecting your reputation and your children’s problems from the community is a smart choice.
Couples that mediate tend to honor their agreements and end the relationship peacefully. It’s OK if you and your spouse don’t really get along perfectly right now, you can still mediate your divorce. Having a conversation about financial and parenting issues with your spouse and a trained mediator can help further facilitate communication now and even after the divorce is final.
Not every case can be mediated, if you are considering divorce please contact a qualified mediator for a consultation before you rush to court!
If you would like more information about a healthy divorce, contact Dawn to set up a consultation at Dawn@ClementMediation.com
Attorney and Mediator